Feeling in control of your life means knowing how to regulate yourself. Sometimes this is quick and easy. You can learn to recognize the signs that you are going into a spiral and take some deep breaths, for instance. Sometimes it takes a lot more effort. Mostly this is impacted by how disregulated you already are and how much ongoing stress you have in your life.
Our therapists are creative and persistent. We are determined to help you find a routine that works for you.
Identifying & Working Through What's "Driving the Bus"
Sometimes it's obvious what caused your issues. Sometimes not so much. Whatever the case, we'll help support you in digging under the surface to find the root of your depressed mood and/or anxiety.
Once you find it (and can tolerate talking about it thanks to those skills you already learned in Step 1), we'll help you to find a new perspective about it. Often you'll also develop a plan for how to handle it when the "old tapes" come back in the future, too.
We know. That sounds pretty granola and maybe even a little naive. But these are things that have been proven to insulate you from depression and anxiety.
Finding something that makes your life feel purposeful and worthwhile is huge. It doesn't have to be something huge either. Many people find meaning in nature or their families or in the simple task of making someone smile.
Finding Self Compassion
Self-compassion is just learning to treat yourself with respect and kindness in thought, body, and mind. It is an action that has been shown through research to keep warriors from getting PTSD and moms of special needs kids from burning out. Self-compassion is powerful and can be taught.
Balance just means keeping things in perspective. For each person this might look different. For some, it might involve making time for exercise. For someone else, it might be having tricks to help you be more objective and stay out of "black and white thinking". Your therapist will help you to explore what balance looks like for you and help you to implement it.
How We Help
Living with depression or anxiety for a while can start to make people lose hope. We are here to help. Our therapists help kids, adults, parents and partners to come alive again.